Parenting Coordination: WHY?
AFCC Certified Parent Coordinator
As a Parenting Coordinator, David plays a crucial role in assisting families finalize their divorce matters, while prioritizing the best interests of the children. He ensures that the parenting plan is given significant consideration, emphasizing the need for parents to collaborate on individual parenting time with their children. Without such coordination, children exposed to ongoing parental conflict are at a higher risk for social, academic, and mental health issues, and may struggle with their own intimate relationships in the future.
Parenting coordination helps reduce parental conflict and shields children from their parents' disagreements.
Key issues addressed include:
- Individual parenting time schedules
- Educational decisions (e.g., choice of schools)
- Participation in extracurricular activities
- Communication between parents
- Holiday schedules
- Pick-up and drop-off arrangements
While these issues are typically covered in the Divorce Settlement Agreement, they often require management in post-divorce situations, especially in high-conflict cases involving child-related matters. Such cases may arise when:
- There is a high rate of litigation, particularly regarding the implementation of shared parenting time orders.
- Mediation has been unsuccessful or deemed inappropriate.
- Parents need assistance in developing, modifying, or implementing their parenting plan.
- Parents struggle to communicate about their child's welfare.
- Parents cannot agree on substantive issues concerning their child.
- Complex child-related or family issues necessitate intensive case management.
It Takes a Family
Coordinating time with extended family in a divorce can be challenging. Here are some suggestion
Create a Schedule: Develop a clear and consistent schedule that outlines when children will spend time with each parent and their extended families. This helps everyone know what to expect and reduces conflicts.
Communicate Openly: Keep lines of communication open between all parties involved. Discuss plans and any changes well in advance to avoid last-minute surprises.
Prioritize the Children’s Needs: Focus on what works best for the children. Consider their school schedules, extracurricular activities, and social lives when planning family time.
Be Flexible: While having a schedule is important, being flexible can help accommodate special occasions or unexpected events. Flexibility shows cooperation and can make transitions smoother.
Use Technology: Utilize shared calendars or family apps to keep everyone informed about the schedule. This can help avoid misunderstandings and ensure everyone is on the same page.
Plan Joint Activities: If possible, plan some joint activities where both sides of the family can come together. This can help maintain a sense of unity and provide the children with a supportive environment.
Legal Agreements: If necessary, formalize arrangements through legal agreements to ensure that everyone’s rights and responsibilities are clear and respected
Seek Mediation: If conflicts arise, consider seeking the help of a mediator to facilitate discussions and find mutually agreeable solutions